There is nothing out there that is the thing itself. The apparent reality of all things is an illusion, a dream. All perception is relative.
Appearance is subject to imputed terms. Through a series of complex operations based on the dynamics of each perceiver, we give reality and meaning to a thing based on the terms we assign to it. Through this framework of imputed terms, the individual gives rise to the appearance of creation.
The only thing that stands between you and the enlightened condition is the complex framework of terms that you have used to define existence. These terms are the very source of your bondage. You must step away from the absolute lock of imputed terms and allow things to move without any requirement of the dream of control.